Part II of “It’s a Yes” post.
Can there be any truth to this statement – Saying yes can be causing a disruption to the flow in your life? As I read through “Year of yes” I started to think there might be something here worth taking a closer look at, and my two obvious source of disruptions were.
- Cell phone – It rings, a text or email comes in and I check it
- Social Media – periodic check throughout the day for updates which often leads to reading an article, researching a story, etc.
Though these two simple acts are considered part of our daily life, it can become not only a distraction but a disruption to the flow of saying yes to what really matters. Adding up the amount of time actually spent in those activities was so appalling, because the total amount of hours combined on my cell and social media was less than what I was investing in my relationship with my spouse per day, and that was enough to do something about it.
And this is what I’m doing
- Check specific times during the week, twice on Saturday, off on Sunday…except to post my article.
You see as much as I enjoy being up to speed, in the loop and engaged, what really matters to me has to take first place, and when that’s off I have to make adjustments. Yes, to everything and everyone is signing up for a life that can be constantly interrupted and fragmented.
Let’s get to another excerpt from Shonda Rhimes book “Year of Yes –
Chapter 4 – Yes to the Sun
“I thought saying YES would feel good. I thought it would feel freeing. Like Julie Andrews spinning around on that big mountaintop at the beginning of the Sound of Music. Like how you feel when you just finished baking double-fudge brownies but you have yet to shove one in your mouth. This YES does not feel like a post-baked pre-eaten brownie.
I feel forced into this, I feel like I don’t have a choice. My obligations to my network, plus my obligations to my stupid Year of yes idea has trapped me. This is not what YES is supposed to feel like. YES should feel like the sun.
I said yes to something that terrified me. (Appearing on Jimmy Kimmel show). And then I did it and I didn’t die. There’s a crack in the pantry door. A sliver of light coming in. I can feel a bit of warm sun on my face. YES does feel like the sun.”
Which leads me to a few questions for this post:
- What is it that really matters to you?
- Is your yes lining up as you’d like?
- Is your work life better or worse from saying yes?
- Is your home life better or worse from saying yes?
You see, sometimes saying yes will be terrifying but if it matters to you, take a deep breath and step into it. And you’ll experience a sense the courage to make your life…well, step into it and find out.
Remember to add the set of questions above to last week’s post http://want-know-can-count-can-get-done and make your YES this week an empowering one.