It’s definitely NOT a nice place to be right? Ever seen a fly caught in a spider’s web or walked smack into one and didn’t know it till you felt it? Well, just like that SMACK we can find ourselves all caught up in the unpleasantness of people pleasing, and just in case you haven’t yet connected the dots on this one – caught in the web of people pleasing sucks the energy out of you, yep…just like that fly caught in the web fighting for its life.
Here’s the deal, you always have a choice and heck yeah a free will to choose (yes, you have the ability to choose what’s best for you) oh, and people pleasing by no means is healthy, no matter how you slice it. So, some choices that comes to mind – you can go back into the past and unravel the when and why this dis-empowering behavior started, or sit in it and whine about it and continue to live your life pleasing others no matter what, all the time, or you can make the decision to empower yourself to change that cycle. The latter is the best choice, trust me on this one.
How do I go about this? Great question:) Complicated long winded answer or to the point? I opt for to the point answers
- Identify the people/person you’re always pleasing (if it’s more than one person – pick one, and grab a pen and paper and jot down why you’re so inclined to always please them – trust me, the answer is there within you.
Hint – in most cases it comes down to fear, fear of losing the person or not measuring up or something else, but the root is fear.
- What’s the worst thing that can happen to that relationship if you removed yourself from that web?
- What would happen to you if you begin to apply more self care to your life?
- Practice, practice, practice – saying no can be a healthy response, and for goodness sake, stop jumping to every request they put forth, and start investing that energy into YOU.
Alright, let me know what happens to your web when you make the decision and take the steps to stop spinning.
To your health and enjoyment!