Self-esteem is about feeling good about you, and seeing yourself in a positive way. Unfortunately, we’re not born with a healthy dose of self-esteem, it’s not in our family genes, and it’s not attainable by a doctor’s prescription. The great news is; it’s obtainable, rightly ours to pursue passionately, nurture daily, enjoy and share with others.
Self-esteem is about being having a healthy dose of confidence, worth, image and respect first for you.Self-esteem isn’t about being boastful overconfident, arrogant and disrespectful.
It took WORK to achieve a healthy self-esteem. I didn’t like myself much because of the life lessons I encountered as a child, and teenager. You know those subtle words and body language dropped by those close to you, or by mean school mates. Low self-esteem hounded me until my young adult years, I didn’t like who I was in my thinking and interacting with others, and I knew something had to change.
Look Within: Everything to that point on the outside wasn’t helping me, so I began to look within. I realized I wasn’t showing any love to me, so I began to love Diane through healthy self-talk, feeding my mind with positivity – reading inspirational and motivational books, listening to motivational speakers and began to do and say what resonated with me.
Look Without: I set off to exercise every day starting with 20 minutes then gradually increased it. My nutrition was looked at, and I began to make changes that I thought would be beneficial to me. I began to take better care in my appearance. (How you feel about yourself will generally be mirrored by your appearance)
Write it down: I began to journal my inner thoughts every day. Through this I discovered a new passion and skill for writing, this form of expression turned out to be both healing and enlightening. I learned that I had dreams and began to record them, set goals and pursue them.
Speak up: I started to let my voice be heard; before, I would stay silent and allow others speak for me or not defend myself or voice my opinion.
My confidence grew as I saw constructive changes which encouraged me to keep going. A new me was evolving and I felt strong within. I noticed my thinking, talking, walking, and speaking was presented from a position of strength and not timidity. The greatest lesson that came from this was self-love. Loving me was a new practice but felt amazing and empowering, and from that place the birth of a healthy self-esteem emerged.
Moving from the place of having an unhealthy self-esteem to a healthy one is a process and takes time, but it is am investment that produces rewards throughout your life-time. Today, I have a solid sense of self and my esteem is healthy. I continue to apply those same action points to areas of my life whenever the need for change or adjustment is required.
I leave you with two of my favourite quotes on self-esteem:
“We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves.” Malcolm X
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” Harvey Fierstein
What do you do to maintain a healthy self-esteem?
To your health and enjoyment!