Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.”
– Dale Carnegie
Despite the pain we may have endured
Despite the (mental, emotional, verbal or physical) abuse we may have suffered
Despite the shame we may have endured
Despite the broken heart we may have nursed
Despite the bulling as a child, and adult we may have had to put up with…
we can prevail, move away from a worrying mindset to one of a warrior and get better.
I can identify with every point noted above, and I’m sure you can relate to at least one of them. Unfortunately, when we’re hurt we build walls, create resistance and do whatever it takes to protect us from reliving an unhappy experience. And, part of that can sometimes creep into our lives in the form of worrying.
When we worry we activate internal perceptions that’s connected to our personal experience that caused hurt, loss and or suffering.
- I worry that my heart will be broken again, so I shut myself off from being vulnerable.
- I worry if I speak up I’ll be laughed at, opinion shot down or ignored, so I stay silent.
- I worry that I might lose my job or looked over for that promotion if I speak up, so I keep my head down do my 9-5.
- I worry about what people think of me, or saying negative things behind my back so I avoid any out of office interaction
- I worry my family won’t accept my sexual preference, so I deny my truth and live a lie
Worrying affects our sleep, it saps our energy because our mind is constantly juggling worrisome thoughts, and it adds stress to our lives. It’s exhausting! So, how can we turn off or minimize the extent of worrying? We become warriors and take back the space worrying has occupied.
He who conquers himself is the mightiest warrior. — Confucius
No one is born a warrior, you become one by going into battle. And here the battle ground is our mental attitude, going against the enemy of worry.
Steps to defeat the mindset of worry for a Warrior Mindset:
- Desire to be free and happy
- Courage to step into thinking and acting differently
- Discipline to keep practicing until freedom is experience
- Determination to stick with it, to work through the process
When worry surfaces what should I do to stop it? I choose to go against what I’ve been doing before, I choose to move in another direction. Let’s look at an example.
“I worry that my heart will be broken again, so I shut myself off from being vulnerable” Give yourself permission to explore the possibility to experience love.
Warrior – start by saying yes to a conversation or coffee
Worrier – silenced by the permission you give yourself – yes!
You owe it to yourself to turn a new page, begin a new chapter of your life by activating a warrior attitude and dispel the waste of worry.
*Note – grieving over any hurt or pain is healthy, however holding unto it is a form of self-destruction and prevents you from moving forward with living a healthy happy life.
I’d love to hear what you find yourself worrying about most? Email me or leave a comment or question.
To BEing your better self!