Our words define who we are and make us either POWERHOUSES or WRECKING BALLS! Which one do you most identify with? Sometimes I’m a Powerhouse and sometimes I’m a Wrecking Ball, and though there are times we need to step up and be wrecking balls, being a Powerhouse has the ability to lift, heal and help. I’m a Wrecking Ball when I’m being disrespected, and notice others are being disrespected. However, keeping it real when I’m tired I can easily be an unintentional wrecking ball. Back in the day during my under developed self:) I was more of a wrecking ball because I was hurt, confused and bitter, and from experience I’ve learned that hurting people hurt others to protect themselves.
Yehuda Berg said it best –
“Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.”
Sometimes we forget how powerful we really are and we loosely let our lips flap, and we get into hot water. Once it’s out…it’s out, and we now have to go pick up the pieces because we say stuff when we weren’t in our best state of being. It happens, we blow it periodically, however I’d like to think and believe we’re called to use our words to be powerhouse of energy, kindness MORE, than wrecking balls to hinder, hurt, harm and humiliate.
By no means will you and I ever get to the place where we will only be PowerHouses, we can however become more mindful of the use of our words, with less wrecking ball drops. It’s not how much we say that matters, but what we say that does.
We have full control over the use of our words – to keep it zipped and walk away, deliver it with grace, or speak up in defense with intent could still make a PowerHouse impact, leaving you with your dignity in place, or unleash without care and leave destruction only a wrecking ball can deliver.
If you find yourself being a wrecking ball to others, you CAN stop and you MUST stop for the betterment of your relationships and your wellbeing.
If you find yourself being slammed by wrecking balls again and again, you CAN make it stop and for your wellbeing you MUST make it stop.