Load question right? Well, I found myself in an interesting place – you know, all part of life’s journey. Let me just say; though I don’t enjoy, anticipate, nor look forward to the downside and sometimes blind-side that life brings…later, I do look back; yes, I do, and appreciate the lessons I learned from both. Though we can agree that life dishes out highs, lows, ups, downs and even blind-sides however, we can learn, grow, and benefit from those times. Unfortunately, it’s during those seasons we are forced to take a closer look internally, and ask the tough questions – (not the ones that add another knock-out punch to our already hurt soul), rather, the ones that can help guide us to a healthy place. Sadly, in some instances we come up empty because there’s nothing healthy inside to draw on.
It is important to make and have healthy deposits in our minds because, when the downside and sometimes blind-side that life brings barges into our lives, we will be prepared to some extent to regain your footing quicker, stand on our feet though shaky, and make decisions based not from an emotionally hurt position, but from a position of the strength of our minds. It’s the place where we find out what we have inside to drive us from hurt to a healthy place.
The reality is, we don’t usually take the time to find perspective of where our minds are at, and reflect on what we have within to draw on, and trust me – yeah, we will find ourselves in that hurt, down or blind side place more than once…it’s not a bad thing; it’s just part of life, but won’t it be a bonus to be prepared? I certainly have learned the dis-advantage and advantage of being on both sides. So, I can hear you saying “yeah, we don’t know what life’s going to throw at us, so how is it possible to be prepared?”
Ah, brilliant question, however what I am about to share with you is guaranteed to put you in a better place; than not being prepared at all. Let me use a few day to day illustrations that will tie into with what I’m about to share. In the financial realm, if we don’t have money in our accounts we cannot make a withdrawal of any kind. If we don’t have gas in our car, it’s unable to take us anywhere, and finally, if we didn’t pay our internet, cable or cell accounts, we’re likely unable to access them.
The point is; irrelevant of what area it is, in order to draw on any of those benefits, we; you and I as individuals have to make deposits first. We have to first put money into our accounts in order to make a withdrawal, pump gas into the car for mobility, and pay our bills in order to enjoy a variety of technology services. We’re very good at making sure those areas are taken care of from month to month, but when it comes to our minds, we can be clueless or unaware of the value, and importance of making not just deposits, but healthy deposits into the mind.
By now, if you’ve gotten to this stage, you must be thinking about the question that started all this; “What deposits am I making into my mind?” instantaneously the answer is there isn’t it? Not much, not enough, none lately, and I really don’t know, or I am doing it. I can relate to each one at different stages in my life. Spending time on every other area and little to none on what I’m feeding my mind.
Seeing that this topic has multiple parts, I will leave you with a few steps that have helped me move from no or negative deposits to healthy deposits.
Step 1: Attitude – ours, not anyone else matters at this very moment, and no it’s not about the attitude of others toward us; it’s personal. This is our time to take a look within, and begin to take steps to reshape and transform our attitude into a healthy one.
“When you make a choice, you change the future.” Deepak Chopra
“Do not give your attention to what others do or fail to do; give it to what you do or fail to do.” Buddha
Step 2: Thinking – How we think about ourselves will be reflected in the way we speak, dress and conduct ourselves in public and private. Trust me turning on the spotlight on ourselves isn’t always pretty – actually it can be down-right uncomfortable, but if we’re to get to where we want to, we have to make the decision that regardless of how we may feel, we’re going to work through this process. And remember, it is a process; we just didn’t wake up and walla, our thoughts, and attitude of habitually thinking unhealthy will be gone – it’s a process.
“As a man/woman thinks in his/her heart, so is he/she.” The Bible
“The way you think, the way you behave, the way you eat, can influence your life by 30 to 50 years.”
“However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them?” Buddha
In my next post I continue on this topic, in the mean time, please comment on this post and share on What deposits are you making into your mind?
To your health and enjoyment!