- Mental Wellness
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- Self-improvement & Personal Growth
BLOOM! Who doesn’t like flowers? I mean come on what’s not to like about flowers…fragrant, colourful and beautiful. Aside from the obvious, flowers brightens a dull room and ever watch the expression when a bouquet of flowers are presented? Yes, the effect brightens our day and conveys a message between the sender and receiver…just because…I love you…thank you…I’m sorry…please forgive me.
Like the message says…when a flower isn’t blooming, you don’t pull the flower out of the soil. No, you fix the environment…less sun, more sun…pull out the weeds…less water…more water. Through a process of elimination you figure out what’s causing the lack of bloom and with those tweaks the flower adjust and does what it’s supposed to do – BLOOM.
So, what area of your life needs some TLC to bloom? The usual areas that need constant investment/TLC are the ones we sometimes take for granted, like…
Our relationship with our significant other – we assume he/she understands why I’m spending less time with them
With ourselves – I’m too busy or don’t have time to (fill in your missing piece)
Our finances – I’ll budget later
Career change/improvement – The job market is dismal or I’m not in the league of the millennials
Here’s what I discovered when those areas aren’t blooming and I come up with a bunch of lukewarm reasons – it’s about fear. Fear of facing the state of my finances which tells me I’ve been lacking discipline. Fear that I won’t like what I hear when I communicate with my spouse. Fear I’ll fail again at reaching my fitness goal and what others will think, and fear to step into making the changes in my career because…what ifs?
Fear is the enemy that keeps us from blooming, and in many cases the fear is only our perception gone cra cra. Maybe those four areas all need some TLC, don’t let that overwhelm and discourage you. Here are three easy steps to make the change from gloom to bloom:
Step one: Pick the most important area and answer
Step two: What can I do differently this week to make this area bloom? (change, cultivate, care)
Step three: Execute, then the following week, adjust if necessary and repeat. By doing the best you can each day, you’ll be on your way to seeing noticeable changes in the areas that really matters to you.
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The globe and mail shares an interesting article on loneliness…a crisis is looming
“This is a bigger problem than we realize,” says Ami Rokach, a psychologist and lecturer at York University in Toronto, who has been researching the subject for more than three decades. Loneliness has been linked to depression, anxiety, interpersonal hostility, increased vulnerability to health problems, and even to suicide.”
There’s someone out there who can relate with where you’re at, what you’re going through, how you’re feeling, because they too may be in the exact same place, or have been there and made it through.
Don’t give up, don’t give in, sit if you have to and kneel if you must, but refuse to bow, do not surrender.
You are not alone
You may be feeling discouraged because finding suitable employment is slow
You may be dealing with a rebellious troubled child
You may be faced with an unexpected health issue
You may be single and feeling lonely
You may be struggling to lose BF (body fat)
You may be facing financial struggle
You may be in a relationship and feeling lonely
You may feel stuck in an unfulfilled job and unsure of your next move
You may be living in an abusive relationship
You may numb with internal pain, but externally you’re the life of the party
You are not alone
My friend there is NO need to sit in SILENCE, let today be the day you’re going to REACH OUT and take action. Your greatest weapon is your voice use it today to activate the change your heart longs for.
What area do you feel alone in? If you’d like to put an end to the loneliness send me a confidential email email@example.com and let’s have a conversation.
You can read the full article from the globe and mail here http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/life-of-solitude-a-loneliness-crisis-is-looming/article15573187/?page=all
To BEing your better self
I remember when…
My financial situation was bleak. I got news that my dad living in South America may not make it before I arrive. I found out a close friend was diagnosed with terminal cancer while pregnant with twins. I got let go from a job because I took a stand against bullying, and told the company was moving in a different direction – got a severance to “make it all better”
And on, and on we all have stories about experiences we faced that awakened anger, hurt, sadness, heartache and changed us in someway.
I learned along the way that whatever the situation, it IS, and though the outcome may not be what I’d like, in order for me to find the strength, hope, and courage to keep going, I have to invite a different perspective. I’m not denying my emotions, feelings and reality of the situation, but my outlook and focus has to shift.
How often do you look up while en route to your destination? I’m not in the habit of doing so as my focus is usually on the destination ahead. A few months back while waiting for the light to change, I looked up, and for the first time I noticed the difference between the old and new buildings…character. The architectural design of the old reflected beauty which I was drawn to, while the new didn’t have the same effect. Clearly a difference of taste and preference, however I’d walked this particular street hundreds of times, yet never recognized the difference simply because I never looked up.
Though this lesson wasn’t life transforming, I learned a fresh, new different perspective can be achieved when we look up, not literally, but figuratively!
- Spending time staring at a problem won’t produce a resolution
- Talking or replaying the issue won’t provide a solution
- Sometimes we’re using the wrong tool, or the right tool but using it incorrectly
Doing things differently will at the least open the door to exploring a new way that might provide either a solution or relief.
You may be facing a difficult situation and find your emotions and feelings growing worst, or unchanged with no relief. I invite you to take a different approach by changing something – your thinking, your words, your action, habit, maybe the person you talk to is all about doom and gloom.
What is one thing you can change starting now to help you look up and start gaining a different perspective? Then start doing it so you can begin to feel better and more hopeful.
To BEing your better self
Love is a willingness to sacrifice
Easter is not about beautiful bunnies and chocolate eggs, though bunnies are cute and chocolate…well:) For those who acknowledge this holiday it’s about remembering what the Messiah Jesus did and celebrating the outcome.
It got me thinking about our journey of life and how we live, figuratively in those three areas, and wanted to explore and reflect on this further.
Sacrifice (give up): Sacrifice is about giving something up for a greater good, and can stem from love or duty. I’m sure we can share of past and maybe in this present moment things we’ve had to give up willing or unwillingly for others or ourselves.
Sacrifices always cost something and carries a measure of pain, suffering and discomfort with it.
Maybe in the moment of sacrifice we don’t see the good, however later it made sense, and perhaps even if it never made sense, we would still walk away learning from it.
When we’re going to make a sacrifice of giving up something, we’d usually want to know
- WHY/Reason am I doing it?
- HOW is it going to better my life or another person or cause?
- WHAT is it going to cost me?
Resurrect: Somethings are worth being resurrected and some are just NOT worth it. Anything or anyone associated with hurt, anger, or disruption of life should be left alone, unless the resurrection is used as a reference and in someway serve a purpose.
Why invest energy into something that will not help make something or someone better? Did a better you emerge, was someone helped, was a cause advanced?
Resurrection can also apply to a new lease on life, a fresh start, new chapter, or a new perspective perhaps.
Celebrate: Sacrifice and resurrection void of celebration of what was accomplished or achieved is a waste of time and energy.
Was there freedom, release, or peace to celebrate the months maybe years of sacrifice that lead to the resurrection of a new beginning, a turning point, or change?
What are you sacrificing to achieve? Helping yourself or others, was it saving more to go on a nice vacation, help provide lunches for kids in school, sponsor a child, help a family, buy a home, a car, exercise and eat healthier to lose X amount of body fat, bring more awareness to bullying, gender equality and so on.
Now we have something to celebrate – a sense of fulfillment, enjoyment, relief and pride.
We’ve all faced our own personal sacrifice, resurrection and celebration and will likely experience it again and again. During this time, if you celebrate the meaning of Easter or not, take this moment to not only focus on your personal sacrifice, resurrection and celebrate it, but be mindful of others who sacrificed to help make your life better in some way.
Reach out if you can this week-end and say thanks.
Today, two things happened that reminded me of the purpose for this blog, and why my passion and drive to work at sharing quality topics will continue to evolve, to inform, inspire, challenge, encourage and empower you my readers. It may be only one word, or one sentence that speaks to you, but if that one word or sentence inspires you to act then the purpose of this blog is being met.
In January I got the running itch again, and made the commitment to myself to train for a half-marathon race. I’d just recovered from a back injury, and started out slowly with the goal to run a 5K by the end of February, and I did. My next goal was to run a 10K race in April month end, and yesterday I accomplished that goal in the “Up the creek run”. This run was about running my own race against myself, enjoy nature and finish the run. I set aside the idea of wanting to finish less than 60 minutes, and took the time to appreciate and enjoy the scenic route. It was one of my most rewarding and educated run I ever did.
Self-esteem is about feeling good about you, and seeing yourself in a positive way. Unfortunately, we’re not born with a healthy dose of self-esteem, it’s not in our family genes, and it’s not attainable by a doctor’s prescription. The great news is; it’s obtainable, rightly ours to pursue passionately, nurture daily, enjoy and share with others.
Self-esteem is about being having a healthy dose of confidence, worth, image and respect first for you.Self-esteem isn’t about being boastful overconfident, arrogant and disrespectful. More