When it comes to measuring success in our home and work life, we all use different tools to do so. Regardless of how we do it, building a strong foundation is imperative to being successful.
I was born in Guyana South America to a beautiful kind hearted mother of black and native Indian descent, and a hard working loving father of east Indian descent. For the first 20 years of my life the drive to provide a good life for me and my sister was the foundation that fueled my parents to excel at parenthood. Neither of them attended high school, but their determination to learn and create a good life cause them both to discover their creativity that led to their success in life.
My father was a self taught carpenter that built our home along with every piece of furniture in it. From the bed frames to the coffee table and living room chairs…self-taught.
My mother’s love for cooking got her a job as the main cook in a convent with 2 staff cooking for 24 nuns six days a week. You name it, she cooked it, and if she didn’t know how, she learned and did it exceptionally well. On the side she made and filled countless orders of guava jam, fudge, and cakes…self-taught. In addition, she worked as a seamstress. Admiration for my parents’ work ethics, drive, and pure love for what they did is still something I’m proud of.
Their actions expanded my thinking, inspired me to be resourceful and discover if I didn’t like how I felt, how I looked or what I did, I could do something about it. This challenged me to step into my first aha moment by learning how to change my chubby body and mind and in the process gained a new level of confidence and power.
From the age of 21 to about 33 after migrating to Canada, my foundation was tested, shaken and at times broken. A whole new world, and thousands of miles away from home will do that to you. I immersed myself into the church desperate to connect with God, hoping I would rebuild my foundation, and for a while it did.
The thing I discovered throughout my journey so far is this – I am only as successful as the foundation I’m building on. A weak or unstable foundation is formed by what I allow to sit and simmer internally, by who I permit into my life, by what counsel I listen to and what I give myself to.
My lack of confidence, unsure, hesitant, doubting my abilities, questioning myself, being unhappy with myself, worrying about what others thought about me, was the foundation I lived on and it showed. The flipside of establishing and building a strong foundation happens when I am confident, sure, believe in my abilities, go with my intuition, encourage and challenge myself and that enables me to produces the kind of success I can measure both internally and externally.
In order for my home and work life to be successful, meaningful, and vibrant, my foundation has to be strong, and the only way I know how to do that, is to invest in my personal development and growth.
So when I notice areas of my life lacking success, I take a look at the foundation to see what’s going on, and make adjustments as needed.
How are you measuring the success of what matters to you? If you’re not happy with the way things are, you have the ability and responsibility to do something to make it better.
You can improve the success of your personal relationships and work life by taking a look at what type of foundation you’re building on. Commit to making small changes to strengthen your foundation, increase your success and extend your happiness factor.